1. Share a time that someone’s honesty regarding a struggle in their life impacted you.
  2. How are you more authentic than since the beginning of this group? Would you say you are more known to the group? What percentage of your life is out in the light and what percentage is still hidden in the dark? (1 John 1:5-7)
  3. We all know that God sees everything and yet has forgiven us in Christ Jesus. So why do we find it so difficult sometimes to confess our sins to others? What does this reveal about our hearts?
  4. Have you allowed your group members to hold you accountable in all things? Is there anything that you have withheld from the group that you need to talk about?
  5. What area(s) of your life do you need the encouragement that comes from the gospel and from the rest of us in the group? (1 Thess. 5:11)
  6. As a group discuss: What else can you do create an environment conducive to spiritual growth?


Hebrews 10:24-35

24 And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, 25 not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.

Ephesians 4:15-16

15 Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ,16 from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.

Colossians 3:9-11

9 Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator. 11 Here there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave, free; but Christ is all, and in all.

Matthew 18:15-20

15 If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. 17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. 18 Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. 19 Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.

Proverbs 27:17

17 Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.

James 5:16

16 Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.




The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict  by Ken Sanders

Radical Together by David Platt

Multiply by Francis Chan

Present Future by Reggie McNeal

Take It to the Limit by Andy Stanley

The Life You’ve Always Wanted by John Ortberg

Disciplines of a Godly Man by R. Kent Hughes

The Spirit of the Disciplines by Dallas Willard

The BE Series Bundle by Warren W. Wiersbe

Restless by Jennie Allen (For Women)

Discipleship Counseling by Neil T. Anderson

Example Risks

You want to walk away from your R3 group with an action step every time. These are ONLY examples of an action step. By no means are they required. Please feel free to (and seek to) come up with your own. The goal of R3 is to take realistic steps forward together. Please only choose one step and be prepared to report back to your group on how you did the next time you meet.

  1. If there is sin in your life that you have never confessed. It is time to confess that to your R3 group and/or your spouse and then repent of it.
  2. Write out a thoughtful letter of encouragement to someone in your R3 group who has helped you grow as a believer in Christ.
  3. Establish long-term accountability with someone on at least a monthly basis