1. What are the titles you have?
  2. Does your life reflect that your primary title is a sinner saved by grace? Do all other titles fit under the umbrella of this one?
  3. Are you fixating your identity or sense of worth on any of these titles?
  4. Is your relationship with Christ pouring into the other titles that you have been given?
  5. Where has God demonstrated this truth for you: there is nothing you can do to make God love you any more and there is nothing you can do to make God love you any less? Is this what motives you throughout the day, or is it something else?
  6. Quote from Francis Chan’s book You and Me Forever:

    “People accuse me of going overboard in preparing for my first ten million years in eternity. In my opinion, people go overboard in worrying about their last ten years on earth.”

    Our actions are a litmus test that reveal our identity. What we prepare for, what we worry about indicates our heart’s affections. The ultimate question of this mission measure is are we living for this life, or are we living for the next one? Of the two people Chan describes, which one are you honestly? If you are the person worried more about retirement, what are you going to do to begin to change that this week?


Philippians 3:3-11

For we are the circumcision, who worship by the Spirit of God and glory in Christ Jesus and put no confidence in the flesh— 4 though I myself have reason for confidence in the flesh also. If anyone else thinks he has reason for confidence in the flesh, I have more: 5 circumcised on the eighth day, of the people of Israel, of the tribe of Benjamin, a Hebrew of Hebrews; as to the law, a Pharisee; 6 as to zeal, a persecutor of the church; as to righteousness under the law, blameless. 7 But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. 8 Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ 9 and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which comes through faith in Christ, the righteousness from God that depends on faith— 10 that I may know him and the power of his resurrection, and may share his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, 11 that by any means possible I may attain the resurrection from the dead.“

Ephesians 2:8-9

8 For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, 9 not a result of works, so that no one may boast.“

Romans 5:6-8

For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die— but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

1 Corinthians 4:7

“7 For who sees anything different in you? What do you have that you did not receive? If then you received it, why do you boast as if you did not receive it?”



The Blessing by John Trent & Gary Smalley

Gospel by J.D. Greear

Celebration of Disciplines by Richard J. Foster

When the Game is Over, It All Goes Back in the Box by John Ortberg

The Ragamuffin Gospel by Brennan Manning

Desiring God by John Piper

Search for Significance by Robert McGee

Salvaging My Identity by Rachel Lovingood (For Girls and Young Women)


G.O.S.P.E.L. – Propaganda –

Why I Hate Religion, But Love Jesus – Jefferson Bethke –

The Story of God – Matt Papa –

Example Risks

You want to walk away from your R3 group with an action step every time. These are ONLY examples of an action step. By no means are they required. Please feel free to (and seek to) come up with your own. The goal of R3 is to take realistic steps forward together. Please only choose one step and be prepared to report back to your group on how you did the next time you meet.

  1. Write on your mirror a bible verse with a dry erase marker that describes the new creation we are in Christ.
  2. Each day you arrive at work, start first thing in prayer. Recognize your primary title at work is Child of God, and ask Him to let this title change the way you act at work.
  3. Set aside a 15 minute period, once or twice a week, to break away from whatever you are doing to spend some time refocusing on your identity in Christ and how that affects the way you live everywhere you go.