1. Mention at least one way in which you have taken a personal risk (made a sacrifice) in the past to bring the gospel to your relationship at home (with spouse, children, roommates). (Eph. 5:21)
  2. A sponge holds absorbs something and doesn’t let anything escape. A pipe takes something and passes it on. When it comes to the grace of God in your home, are you a pipe or are you a sponge? How well do you pass the grace of Christ to your family/roommates?
  3. Where is your desire level to creatively serve your family?
  4. Is there anything that is draining your desire to serve your family? (Examples: Is work taxing you too much? Is there unresolved conflict that needs to be addressed? Is your relationship with God dry? Etc.)
  5. Biblical marriage is designed to be a picture of Christ and His Bride (The Church a.k.a Christians). As the church submits to Christ, a wife was designed to respect her husband. As Christ loves the church and gave himself up for her, so a husbands was created to love his wife and submit himself to her needs. Make no mistake, the biblical definition of marriage opposes the definition provided by our culture, and our sinful nature wars against such a sacrifice of the will. The gospel is that instead of caring about power and authority, Christ humbled himself because He cared about YOU! In response to this:
    1. Do you display this same kind love and sacrifice in your marriage?
    2. What is an area of your marriage that you really struggle to be selfless in? What can you do this week to begin to change that?
    3. What is something you could do that would cause your spouse to think, “There is NO WAY they would do something like this if they didn’t know Jesus.”


1 Timothy 5:8

But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Proverbs 22:6

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Ephesians 5:22-33

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even asChrist is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Psalm 128:1-4

Blessed is everyone who fears the Lord,
who walks in his ways!
2 You shall eat the fruit of the labor of your hands;
you shall be blessed, and it shall be well with you.

3 Your wife will be like a fruitful vine
within your house;
your children will be like olive shoots
around your table.
4 Behold, thus shall the man be blessed
who fears the Lord.



For Family

  • Family on Mission by Mike & Sally Breen
  • Choosing to Cheat by Andy Stanley
  • Growing a Spiritually Strong Family by Dennis & Barbara Rainey

For Marriage

  • Sacred Marriage by Gary L. Thomas
  • You and Me Forever by Francis & Lisa Chan
  • The Love Dare by Alex Kendrick & Stephen Kendrick
  • The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller
  • The Sacred Romance by Brent Curtis and John Eldredge

For Parenting

  • Grace Based Parenting by Tim Kimmel
  • Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp
  • Family Devotional Guides by Clarence Sexton
  • Bedtime Devotions with Jesus: My Daily Devotional for Kids by Johnny Hunt
  • Jesus Storybook Bible (read to kids and ask questions)
  • K-4 God Time Cards by Rhonda Brittain –
  • Praying the Scriptures for Your Children by Jodie Berndt & Fern Nichols
  • Effective Parenting in a Defective World by Chip Ingram

Example Risks

You want to walk away from your R3 group with an action step every time. These are ONLY examples of an action step. By no means are they required. Please feel free to (and seek to) come up with your own. The goal of R3 is to take realistic steps forward together. Please only choose one step and be prepared to report back to your group on how you did the next time you meet.

  1. For those with young children, leave a note in your child’s lunch with a bible verse and a personal message.
  2. For roommates, start a “prayer board” in your home to gather prayer requests and pray for one another.
  3. For married couples, find a time in the week for just the two of you. Date night may not be possible, and you might have to get creative. But stick with it.
  4. If your household doesn’t engage with one another well, consider going without screens for one week. Fill that time with fun activities, games, or time outside. If your group is at a loss for ideas, Google literally has millions of ideas.
  5. Use Gary’s sermon from Sunday morning to start a spiritual conversation over the passage/topic that he preached on.
  6. Post a weekly memory verse on the refrigerator.
  7. Most of us have wounds from our parents. In your R3 group, write out a list of things your parents did to hurt you. After you finish this list, make a second list. On it put all the things your children would say if they were asked to make the same list about you. If this exercise convicts you, apologize and choose to let God’s grace change the dynamic of your home this week.